Why I Don’t Do New Year’s Resolutions

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It's New Year’s Day.  Social media, the internet and communication in general is a buzz with bold declarations for a new and improved 2016 (or whatever year we're heading into)... Renewed commitments to work, relationships, hobbies, spirituality, and especially health.  Advertisements abound for the latest in exercise, and especially diet programs……Everyone and their dog is declaring their intentions to hit the gym, buy a treadmill, join a Pilates class, go paleo/gluten free/vegan/local/hormone diet……the list goes on.

I get it. I really do. The New Year seems like the ‘right’ time to turn over a new leaf….and it very well might be for many people.  BUT….not necessarily for everyone…..maybe not for you, and most definitely not for me.

Here are 8 reasons that I gave up declaring New Year’s Resolutions a long time ago:

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The Only Way to Change the World

 

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It's ALL about you.  No really....it is! I know that sounds like an insane thing to say, especially in light of all the chaos and suffering going on in the world right now, but hear me out.

I used to obsess over changing the world. All my awareness and attention was on what was happening 'externally'. I spent a TON of energy focussing on the injustices on the planet, in my community, at work, and even in my own family. I agonized over how to 'fix' people, organizations, systems and situations. I argued my point A LOT, and was almost apoplectic when things didn't go my way or people didn't see 'the obvious'. And of course....I WAS ALWAYS right. I figured, if I was just passionate and articulate enough about what I thought/believed....then I could convince everyone else that they should agree with me and....well, problem solved dammit! The world/organization/family...would be all the better for seeing it my way.

That's how it's done right? Use your influence/knowledge/anger/passion/beliefs, to make everyone see the error of their ways, and force changes in the external world. Easy peasy. Except.....

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Can I Get A Do-Over?

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Awhile back, I had ONE OF THOSE MORNINGS! You know the kind. After a cruddy, fitful sleep, filled with dreams about rats with painted on eyebrows and guest bathrooms that nobody ever cleans, I woke up late, achy, and in no mood to deal with anyone's crap. EVERYTHING was wrong and pissing me off.....and I hadn't even gotten out of bed yet!

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Enter.....Radiant Joy

A couple of nights ago, I had one of those Eureka moments. See, I've worked on uncovering my Core Desired Feelings for about a year or so now, and I was pretty confident I finally had all of them nailed down. There were a couple that I KNEW from the start, and a couple that I tried on for size for a while, until I realized they didn't quite resonate. That's the way the Desire Mapping process unfolded for me personally.

Eventually, the feelings that really clicked were: Connection, Abundance, Shakti (divine, feminine creative power) & Easy Freedom (cause in my mind....there IS such a thing as freedom that doesn't feel easy).

Yep! Got it! THOSE are the feelings I desire. Next step....start making decisions and directing my life in such a way that leads me to those feelings as often as possible. Check!

This process has been a total game changer for me. Like, TOTAL.

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Apples to Oranges

There was a time when I used to base my happiness and success on how things in my life outwardly appeared in comparison to other people. I would look at friends, family members, class mates, co-workers, acquaintances and sometimes even complete strangers and think, "OMG...they have it SO much more together than I do! They make more money, have more fun, live in bigger houses, go on regular vacations with their partner, have children who clean up after themselves, consistently look like they have a personal wardrobe assistant and..... their roots are NEVER showing!! Why am I such a freaking hot mess in comparison?"

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Shhh.....Your Inner Voice is Trying to Tell You Something  (The Results of Taking Imperfect Action)

Last week I wrote a post about my experience at the World Domination Summit, many of the key lessons I learned there, and how thankful I am that I made that investment in myself. I also mentioned that the reason I even ended up there in the first place, was because of a course I took with Scott Dinsmore called, How To Connect With Anyone. I just love how one good thing leads to another :) I've been doing a lot of reflecting on all of this, and decided that I needed to do a bit of a prequel for you. You know, like when they make a movie and then later, they decide they need to tell the back-story in a little more detail. Think 'Star Wars: The Phantom Menace' (Return of the Jedi), or 'Puss in Boots' (Shrek 2). You see, I realized that the events leading up to me attending WDS and having the experience of a lifetime, actually all started the moment I decided to sign up for an online course I knew nothing about. Just like I wrote about last week, I took Imperfect Action, even though I had no idea what the end result would be.

Rewind about 18 months from today....

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